{"id":1161,"date":"2020-09-05T12:55:44","date_gmt":"2020-09-05T12:55:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/?p=1161"},"modified":"2020-09-05T12:55:49","modified_gmt":"2020-09-05T12:55:49","slug":"cum-simte-omul-indiferena","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/daca-vrei-sa-ma-citesti-bine-citeste-ma\/cum-simte-omul-indiferena","title":{"rendered":"Cum simte omul indiferen\u021ba?"},"content":{"rendered":"

,,Era o zi ca oricare alta sau m\u0103 rog, b\u0103nuiam c\u0103 va fi, dar nu a fost pentru c\u0103 nu m-am sim\u0163it tocmai bine… Oamenii pe care-i cuno\u015fteam de foarte mult timp se comportau de parc\u0103 am fi fost str\u0103ini, de parc\u0103 nici n-ar fi remarcat c\u0103 sunt acolo… \u00cen cele din urm\u0103, am decis s\u0103 nu pun la suflet \u015fi s\u0103 nu dau at\u00e2ta importan\u0163\u0103 acestor tipuri de oameni \u0219i mi-am imaginat c\u0103 am mantia aia de invizibilitate a lui Harry Potter la mine. M-am sim\u0163it instant mult mai \u015fmecher\u0103 ca ei.\u201d<\/p>(a relatat o bun\u0103 prieten\u0103 de-a mea – Rebeca)<\/em>
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Este destul de complicat s\u0103 deducem ce se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 \u00een min\u021bile oamenilor, s\u0103 \u00eencerc\u0103m s\u0103 ghicim ce g\u00e2ndesc, de ce se comport\u0103 cum se comport\u0103… \u0219i poate nici nu ar trebui s\u0103 ne batem prea mult capul cu asta. Dac\u0103 un prieten, coleg, hmmm… animalul de companie va alege s\u0103 te ignore, ei bine, va face asta oricum, f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 \u021bin\u0103 cont de g\u00e2ndurile tale anxioase referitoare la: ,,de ce oare, se \u00eent\u00e2mpl\u0103 asta??\u201d<\/em>. Am \u00eenv\u0103\u021bat at\u00e2t din propria experien\u021b\u0103, c\u00e2t \u0219i din experien\u021bele celorlal\u021bi, c\u0103 unor oameni nu le pas\u0103 cu adev\u0103rat de tine \u0219i este fix alegerea\/pierderea lor \"\ud83d\ude42\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

,,Poate unii oameni, care te ignor\u0103 acum, vor da orice ca s\u0103 mai poat\u0103 vorbi m\u0103car o secund\u0103 cu tine \u00een viitor…\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Citatul de mai sus \u00eemi apar\u021bine \u0219i este o referire la faptul c\u0103 nu trebuie s\u0103 renun\u021bi la visurile tale \u0219i nu trebuie s\u0103 te love\u0219ti mereu de obstacolele din via\u021b\u0103. Fiecare obstacol este un motiv de a merge \u00eenainte. Nimic nu se c\u00e2\u0219tig\u0103 u\u0219or, dar sunt multe c\u0103i prin care te po\u021bi pierde dac\u0103 te la\u0219i cuprins de micile r\u0103ut\u0103\u021bi ale vie\u021bii.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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pu\u021bin cardigan azi clan<\/a><\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Ignoran\u021ba este un sentiment pe care to\u021bi l-am sim\u021bit, fie \u0219i numai o dat\u0103 \u00een via\u021b\u0103. Spre exemplu, c\u00e2nd aveai \u0219apte ani \u0219i o vedeai pe mama ta c\u0103 vorbea la telefon, deloc interesat\u0103 s\u0103 te asculte sau c\u00e2nd colegii t\u0103i vorbeau \u0219i r\u00e2deau pe seama lucrurilor \u00eent\u00e2mplate ieri, c\u00e2nd tu lipsise\u0219i… (te sim\u021beai \u201eleft out\u201d, a\u0219a-i?). <\/em>Au fost multe cercet\u0103ri \u0219tiin\u021bifice care au demonstrat c\u0103 sentimentul de a fi ignorat este singura stare mental\u0103 care se poate sim\u021bi ca o durere fizic\u0103. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Te po\u021bi sim\u021bi mic\/neimportant\/nesemnificativ\/etc, dar vreau s\u0103 te g\u00e2nde\u0219ti c\u0103 nimeni nu s-a n\u0103scut \u0219i nu tr\u0103ie\u0219te degeaba. To\u021bi avem un scop anume, iar el poate ie\u0219i la lumin\u0103 fix c\u00e2nd suntem pe punctul de a pierde orice speran\u021b\u0103. Partea cea mai important\u0103 e s\u0103 nu renun\u021bi, ci s\u0103 lup\u021bi pentru a-l putea descoperi. Probabil la v\u00e2rsta noastr\u0103, nu \u0219tim exact ce scopuri esen\u021biale avem. Dar scopurile sunt undeva pe acolo, rezervate pentru noi. De aceea trebuie s\u0103 a\u0219tept\u0103m ca ele s\u0103 vin\u0103 \u0219i s\u0103 adauge un strop de lumin\u0103, s\u0103 ne ajute \u00een realizarea faptului c\u0103 VIA\u021aA E FRUMOAS\u0102 \u0219i c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 facem tot posibilul s\u0103 ne bucur\u0103m de ea \"\ud83d\ude43\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Un mesaj pentru ignoran\u021bi<\/em> ar fi c\u0103 nu vor reu\u0219i s\u0103 doboare pe nimeni proced\u00e2nd a\u0219a. Oamenii sunt f\u0103cu\u021bi s\u0103 reziste, iar cu c\u00e2t problema cu care se confrunt\u0103 va fi mai mare, cu at\u00e2t ei vor deveni mai puternici!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Indiferen\u021ba \u00een familie<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Indiferen\u021ba \u00een familie este, \u00een opinia mea, cea mai grav\u0103. Are multe efecte asupra s\u0103n\u0103t\u0103\u021bii mentale a copilului. C\u00e2nd copilul este ignorat, se va g\u00e2ndi c\u0103 a gre\u0219it \u00een leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu ceva \u0219i c\u0103 este vina lui, va g\u00e2ndi c\u0103 nu este suficient de bun, iar \u00een final va sim\u021bi c\u0103 nu are pe nimeni al\u0103turi… Sentimentele pot varia \u00een func\u021bie de persoan\u0103, dar acestea sunt de regul\u0103, cele mai comune. Unul dintre efectele ignoran\u021bei \u00een familie este c\u0103 dac\u0103 copilul nu are aten\u021bia necesar\u0103 acas\u0103, va face tot posibilul s\u0103 fac\u0103 rost de ea \u00een alt\u0103 parte. De aceea, fiecare clas\u0103 are probabil un ,,clovn\u201d, nu-i a\u0219a? V-a\u021bi g\u00e2ndit vreodat\u0103 c\u0103 acel clovn al clasei ar putea fi nefericit \u00een interiorul lui, acas\u0103? Clovnul clasei vrea de obicei s\u0103 ias\u0103 \u00een fa\u021b\u0103, s\u0103 fie \u00een centrul aten\u021biei, fapt cauzat de ignoran\u021ba din familie sau alte probleme conjugale. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este o realitate c\u0103 unii p\u0103rin\u021bi nu con\u0219tientizeaz\u0103 nevoia copilului de sprijinul parental. Absen\u021ba lor \u00een via\u021ba copilului \u00eel poate face s\u0103 cread\u0103 c\u0103 nu e iubit, ceea ce va contribui \u0219i mai mult la sentimentul de vinov\u0103\u021bie. Dar, \u00een esen\u021b\u0103, nu este adev\u0103rat! Orice p\u0103rinte \u00ee\u0219i iube\u0219te copilul \u00een ad\u00e2ncul inimii, chiar dac\u0103 uneori nu arat\u0103 asta. S\u0103 spunem, spre exemplu, c\u0103 p\u0103rintele are foarte mult de lucru la serviciu \u0219i nu mai are timp de copil prea mult. Este normal ca acel copil s\u0103 se simt\u0103 exclus sau ignorat f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 con\u0219tientizeze c\u0103 p\u0103rintele munce\u0219te a\u0219a mult tot pentru el, pentru a-i asigura un trai bun. Concluzia este c\u0103 \u00eel iube\u0219te, dar copilul neav\u00e2nd aten\u021bie, poate interpreta fix contrariul.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ignoran\u021ba la \u0219coal\u0103<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2nd copilul se simte ignorat \u00een mediul \u0219colar poate deveni irascibil acas\u0103. Toate frustr\u0103rile nu pot fi \u00een\u021belese de p\u0103rin\u021bi, dac\u0103 acesta nu va vorbi despre ele. Cea mai bun\u0103 solu\u021bie este ca el s\u0103 vorbeasc\u0103 despre tot ce \u00eel preocup\u0103, cu cineva de \u00eencredere. Ca \u0219i la ignoran\u021ba \u00een familie, ignoran\u021ba la \u0219coal\u0103 poate avea diferite efecte nocive: copiii ignora\u021bi vor sim\u021bi c\u0103 nu se potrivesc mediului, vor crede c\u0103 este ceva gre\u0219it cu ei, nu vor \u00een\u021belege de ce colegii lor nu \u00eei bag\u0103 \u00een seam\u0103, vor sim\u021bi uneori c\u0103 nu au niciun prieten adev\u0103rat \u00een colectivul respectiv.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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C\u00e2nd te ignor\u0103 ,,CRUSH-UL\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Acest tip de ignoran\u021b\u0103 este cel despre care \u00eemi place s\u0103 vorbesc cel mai mult pentru c\u0103, \u00een r\u00e2ndul adolescen\u021bilor, se pare c\u0103 are un rol destul de important. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

,,M\u0103 topesc dup\u0103 el, fat\u0103! Deci nu \u015ftiu ce s\u0103 mai fac, z\u0103u dac\u0103 mai \u015ftiu! \u00cel visez \u015fi noaptea! \u0162i-am spus c\u0103 l-am visat asear\u0103? Doamneee, \u015fi ce frumos era \u00een vis!!\u201d<\/p>(reac\u021bia exagerat\u0103 a unei prietene)<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Iubirile adolescen\u021bei, zise \u0219i ,,iubirile timpurii\u201d, nu sunt de obicei f\u0103cute s\u0103 reziste prea mult, dar au un impact emo\u021bional puternic asupra celui ,,afectat\u201d de ele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

,,\u015etii? Eu cred c\u0103 nu m\u0103 place… Adic\u0103, dac\u0103… Nu \u015ftiu, dac\u0103 i se pare c\u0103 nu sunt suficient de frumoas\u0103? Dac\u0103 are impresia c\u0103 \u00eemi st\u0103 r\u0103u cu p\u0103rul cre\u0163? Dac\u0103…\u201d<\/p>

,,Dac\u0103 \u015fi cu parc\u0103 se plimbau \u00een barc\u0103.\u201d<\/p>

,,Ce? Haide! Pe bune?! Eu \u00eemi deschid sufletul aici \u015fi tu m\u0103 iei peste picior?!\u201d<\/p>

,,Nicidecum. Vreau doar s\u0103 \u00ee\u0163i sugerez faptul c\u0103 te stresezi aiurea. E\u015fti de acord cu mine?\u201d<\/p>

,,Da, bine… E posibil \u015fi lucrul \u0103sta, s\u0103 m\u0103 stresez aiurea, nu? Adic\u0103… nu crezi c\u0103 ar putea crede asta, nu?\u201d<\/p>

,,Nu. Dac\u0103 ar crede asta ar \u00eensemna c\u0103 are strabism \u015fi alte cinci boli la ochi. Deci nu, nu are cum s\u0103 cread\u0103 asta, stai calm\u0103.\u201d  <\/p>(o conversa\u021bie obi\u0219nuit\u0103 \u00eentre dou\u0103 prietene de n\u0103dejde)<\/em><\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Chiar dac\u0103 pare un subiect destul de ambiguu, ascunde o mare sensibilitate \u0219i vorbim aici despre u\u0219urin\u021ba lui de a forma complexe. C\u00e2nd un adolescent pare a se ar\u0103ta ,,lovit\u201d de aceast\u0103 ,,iubire timpurie\u201d, nu va \u0219tii \u00eencotro s\u0103 o ia pentru c\u0103 aceast\u0103 confuzie \u00eempletit\u0103 cu alte sentimente va forma prea mult\u0103 ,,cea\u021b\u0103\u201d \u00een mintea lui. Se va instala o stare de nesiguran\u021b\u0103 \u0219i de nelini\u0219te, poate chiar va l\u0103sa loc c\u00e2torva g\u00e2nduri precum ,,nu sunt suficient de bun\u201d<\/em>, ,,nu \u00eemi place cum ar\u0103t, de ce a trebuit s\u0103 ar\u0103t a\u0219a?\u201d<\/em>, ,,oare, ar trebui s\u0103 schimb ceva la mine?\u201d<\/em> \u0219i alte t\u00e2mpenii de genul \u0103sta. Toate acestea nu fac dec\u00e2t s\u0103 scad\u0103 stima de sine \u0219i s\u0103 ne fac\u0103 din ce \u00een ce mai nesiguri de cum ar\u0103t\u0103m, cum ne \u00eembr\u0103c\u0103m, cum ne comport\u0103m etc. Trebuie s\u0103 realiz\u0103m faptul c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 fim mul\u021bumi\u021bi de noi \u00een\u0219ine \u0219i c\u0103 ar trebui s\u0103 ne iubim exact a\u0219a cum suntem. La urma urmei, se va g\u0103si cineva \u00een lumea asta mare care s\u0103 ne aprecieze \u0219i s\u0103 ne iubeasc\u0103 pentru cine suntem noi cu adev\u0103rat \"\ud83d\ude00\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00cen concluzie, a\u0219 vrea s\u0103 spun c\u0103 ignoran\u021ba are \u0219i unele p\u0103r\u021bi bune. Spre exemplu, pl\u0103cerea pe care o avem c\u00e2nd vedem c\u0103 acei oameni, care nu s-au sinchisit s\u0103 ne aprecieze, r\u0103m\u00e2n \u0219oca\u021bi c\u00e2nd afl\u0103 de lucrurile frumoase pe care le-am realizat. \u00cei va mustra poate con\u0219tiin\u021ba, ori \u00eei va sufoca g\u00e2ndul c\u0103 datorit\u0103 lor, personalitatea noastr\u0103 s-a dezvoltat cu o voin\u021b\u0103 de fier. Voin\u021b\u0103 care a dovedit pe deplin cine suntem noi cu adev\u0103rat pentru c\u0103 evolu\u00e2nd am demonstrat de ce suntem capabili, invidia lor fiind o ,,arma secret\u0103\u201d, care ne-a convins de valorile proprii, a\u0219a \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 ne facem v\u0103zu\u021bi \u0219i auzi\u021bi… <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

,,Era o zi ca oricare alta sau m\u0103 rog, b\u0103nuiam c\u0103 va fi, dar nu a fost pentru c\u0103 nu m-am sim\u0163it tocmai bine… Oamenii pe care-i cuno\u015fteam de foarte mult timp se comportau de parc\u0103 am fi fost str\u0103ini, de parc\u0103 nici n-ar fi remarcat c\u0103 sunt acolo… \u00cen cele din urm\u0103, am decis 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