{"id":1272,"date":"2020-10-29T18:26:55","date_gmt":"2020-10-29T18:26:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/?p=1272"},"modified":"2020-10-29T18:26:57","modified_gmt":"2020-10-29T18:26:57","slug":"de-ce-te-complaci-ah","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/vaicareala-si-batut-campii\/de-ce-te-complaci-ah","title":{"rendered":"De ce te complaci, ah?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Vine o vreme \u00een via\u021ba ta c\u00e2nd pui sub semnul \u00eentreb\u0103rii c\u00e2teva dintre cele mai importante lucruri pe care le-ai f\u0103cut sau le-ai spus: De ce? Dac\u0103 nu e\u0219ti genul de persoan\u0103 asumat\u0103 sau vreo femeie independent\u0103 care a aflat secretul unei vie\u021bi de succes \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 remu\u0219c\u0103ri, tatu\u00e2ndu-\u0219i sub s\u00e2n, pe partea dreapt\u0103, clasicul \u0219i expiratul <em>\u201eje ne regrette rien\u201d<\/em>, vei observa c\u0103 nu este at\u00e2t de u\u0219or s\u0103-\u021bi r\u0103spunzi la aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare, aparent simpl\u0103. Este foarte probabil s\u0103 nu te fi g\u00e2ndit niciodat\u0103 la asta \u0219i s\u0103 crezi c\u0103 via\u021ba ta \u00ee\u0219i urmeaz\u0103 lin cursul, iar lucrurile pe care le decizi sau spui sunt lipsite de orice tragere la r\u0103spundere. Ei bine, afl\u0103 c\u0103 nu este a\u0219a.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>De c\u00e2te ori \u021bi s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat s\u0103 ie\u0219i dintr-o alterca\u021bie verbal\u0103 drept \u00eenvins? De multe ori, nu-i a\u0219a? Poate pentru c\u0103 argumentele tale nu au fost suficient de tari, poate te-ai bazat pe ni\u0219te premise false sau poate pentru c\u0103 nu ai fost suficient de preg\u0103tit \u00een acea zi, chiar nu conteaz\u0103. Totu\u0219i, odat\u0103 spuse (dac\u0103 sunt spuse, pot exista \u0219i discu\u021bii pa\u0219nice \u2013 mai rar \u0219i, de obicei, \u00eentre categorii pu\u021bin mai speciale de oameni), injuriile pe care le-ai aruncat \u00een lupta pentru suprema\u021bia ideilor asupra opozantului t\u0103u r\u0103m\u00e2n ve\u0219nic aruncate. Fie c\u0103 este vorba despre un simplu atac direct la persoan\u0103 ori asupra familiei sale (sau asupra familiei familiei sale \u2013 \u0219ti\u021bi voi despre ce vorbesc), acea vorb\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2ne \u00een con\u0219tiin\u021ba respectivei persoane pentru totdeauna. De\u0219i exist\u0103, fire\u0219te, cereri de scuze \u0219i iert\u0103ri, de ce ai considerat la acel moment c\u0103 singura cale prin care po\u021bi ie\u0219i \u201enep\u0103tat\u201d din dezbaterea voastr\u0103 \u201eintelectualiceasc\u0103\u201d este s\u0103 love\u0219ti brutal, grotesc prin cuvinte ur\u00e2te ce chiar nu \u00ee\u0219i au rostul \u00eentr-o astfel de conversa\u021bie? Aici, eu cred c\u0103 exist\u0103 dou\u0103 posibile r\u0103spunsuri. Primul ar fi c\u0103 nu ai vrut \u2013 motiv pentru care e\u0219ti o cauz\u0103 pierdut\u0103, pe bune; dac\u0103 e\u0219ti un simplu filistin care are impresia c\u0103 lucrurile sunt doar a\u0219a cum le vede el \u0219i c\u0103 deasupra orizontului s\u0103u \u00eengust nu exist\u0103 \u0219i unul cuprinz\u0103tor, atunci \u201en-ai ce-i face\u201d, cum se spune. Dar dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul t\u0103u este c\u0103 nu ai putut \u2013 \u0219i sper din tot sufletul s\u0103 fie \u0103sta \u2013 aici chiar se poate lucra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image alignwide size-large\"><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"502\" height=\"329\" src=\"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-29-at-18.19.29-2.jpeg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1273\" srcset=\"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-29-at-18.19.29-2.jpeg 502w, https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-29-at-18.19.29-2-300x197.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/WhatsApp-Image-2020-10-29-at-18.19.29-2-16x10.jpeg 16w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 502px) 100vw, 502px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Primul pas ar fi s\u0103 renun\u021bi cu totul, \u00een limbajul curent, la orice form\u0103 de injurie te puteai g\u00e2ndi \u00eenainte. \u00cencearc\u0103 s\u0103 nu le g\u00e2nde\u0219ti, s\u0103 nu le ascul\u021bi \u0219i, poate cel mai important, s\u0103 nu le repe\u021bi. Sunt at\u00e2t de multe cuvinte frumoase \u00een limba rom\u00e2n\u0103, multe dintre care pesemne c\u0103 nici nu \u021bi-au trecut vreodat\u0103 pe la ureche \u0219i oare de ce? Trecem la al doilea pas \u2013 schimb\u0103-\u021bi anturajul. Da, ai auzit bine, dac\u0103 prietenii pe care \u00eei ai acum nu-\u0219i pot scoate organele reproduc\u0103toare din guri \u0219i sunt mai creativi atunci c\u00e2nd vine vorba de crearea unei noi \u00eenjur\u0103turi dec\u00e2t atunci c\u00e2nd vine vorba de elaborarea unui argument valid, au o problem\u0103. Sau tu ai. Depinde cum prive\u0219ti situa\u021bia. Cred c\u0103 am\u00e2ndoi sunte\u021bi \u00eentr-o situa\u021bie proast\u0103, ei pentru c\u0103 sunt pierdu\u021bi, iar tu pentru c\u0103 te la\u0219i pierdut. A\u0219a c\u0103, ce ai de f\u0103cut? Simplu! P\u0103r\u0103se\u0219te-i definitiv. Poate p\u0103rea ur\u00e2t la \u00eenceput, s-ar putea s\u0103-\u021bi impute c\u0103 e\u0219ti cam \u201earfist\u201d, dar hei, dac\u0103 s\u0103 ie\u0219i dintr-un cerc de pro\u0219ti ca s\u0103 te reg\u0103se\u0219ti \u00eenseamn\u0103 s\u0103 fii \u201earfist\u201d, adjectivul preia o valoare pozitiv\u0103. Cum trebuie s\u0103 o faci? C\u00e2t mai tacit posibil, astfel de persoane nu merit\u0103 explica\u021bii \u0219i, cel mai probabil, nici nu vor vrea s\u0103 le \u00een\u021beleag\u0103 sau m\u0103car s\u0103 le asculte. Dac\u0103 tu devii noul subiect al \u00eenjur\u0103turilor lor acerbe, sper c\u0103 \u00ee\u021bi po\u021bi da singur seama cu ce fel de oameni \u00ee\u021bi petreceai timpul. Ultimul pas este mai greu, dar nu imposibil. Trebuie s\u0103 demarezi o c\u0103utare, ce la \u00eenceput o s\u0103 par\u0103 sisific\u0103, printre oameni din alte cercuri sociale dec\u00e2t cele cu care erai obi\u0219nuit \u00eenainte. Ce \u00eenseamn\u0103 asta? P\u0103i dac\u0103 fo\u0219tii t\u0103i amici aveau caracterul pe care \u00eel aveau, ce \u00eei determina s\u0103 fac\u0103 ceea ce f\u0103ceau, crezi c\u0103 vei g\u0103si un comportament antitetic la prietenii acestora? Spoiler: <strong>NU<\/strong>! Sunt f\u0103cu\u021bi din acela\u0219i aluat, crescut \u0219i copt \u00een alte medii, care nu poate diferi \u00eentr-at\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00eei iei \u00een calcul drept posibili noi amici. De multe ori cei pe care \u00eei cau\u021bi sunt chiar sub nasul t\u0103u, dar trebuie s\u0103 \u00eei descoperi, de aceea cred c\u0103 este cel mai greu pas. S\u0103 ajungi s\u0103 descoperi o persoan\u0103 este un proces foarte complex \u0219i adesea chinuitor dac\u0103 persoana \u00een cauz\u0103 este timid\u0103. Uneori t\u00e2njesc dup\u0103 un sistem holografic, asem\u0103n\u0103tor acelora din filmele SF, unde toate caracteristicile unui individ plutesc deasupra acestuia, oricine put\u00e2ndu-le vedea dac\u0103 i se permite. Ar fi at\u00e2t de simplu s\u0103 analizezi dintr-o privire gradul de compatibilitate cu o persoan\u0103, dar, \u00een acela\u0219i timp, at\u00e2t de straniu. Revenind, scuza\u021bi-mi divaga\u021bia \u0219tiin\u021bifico-fantastic\u0103, la subiect, odat\u0103 ajuns \u00een acest punct te po\u021bi considera \u201esalvat\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Prin urmare, nu este imposibil s\u0103 te reorientezi \u00een via\u021b\u0103 \u00een ceea ce prive\u0219te persoanele cu care \u00ee\u021bi faci veacul, ba chiar este indicat dac\u0103 ajungi la concluzia c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 o faci \u0219i trebuie s\u0103 ajungi la concluzia asta f\u0103c\u00e2nd-o singur. Frumos calambur, nu? Chiar nimeni nu o s\u0103 te poat\u0103 for\u021ba s\u0103 faci ceva ce nu vrei, dar mai <strong>g\u00e2nde\u0219te <\/strong>pu\u021bin \u0219i dintr-o alt\u0103 perspectiv\u0103 dec\u00e2t cea pe care o p\u0103strezi \u00een pere\u021bii min\u021bii tale \u0219i cu care e\u0219ti deja mai mult dec\u00e2t obi\u0219nuit. A\u0219 vrea s\u0103 \u0219tiu, a\u021bi sim\u021bit nevoia vreodat\u0103 de a v\u0103 distan\u021ba de cei pe care odinioar\u0103 \u00eei aprecia\u021bi sau, pur \u0219i simplu, bat c\u00e2mpii cu ce zic aici, iar <em>de ce-ul <\/em>meu pentru voi nu exist\u0103?<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Vine o vreme \u00een via\u021ba ta c\u00e2nd pui sub semnul \u00eentreb\u0103rii c\u00e2teva dintre cele mai importante lucruri pe care le-ai f\u0103cut sau le-ai spus: De ce? Dac\u0103 nu e\u0219ti genul de persoan\u0103 asumat\u0103 sau vreo femeie independent\u0103 care a aflat secretul unei vie\u021bi de succes \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 remu\u0219c\u0103ri, tatu\u00e2ndu-\u0219i sub s\u00e2n, pe partea dreapt\u0103, clasicul 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Dac\u0103 nu e\u0219ti genul de persoan\u0103 asumat\u0103 sau vreo femeie independent\u0103 care a aflat secretul unei vie\u021bi de succes \u0219i f\u0103r\u0103 remu\u0219c\u0103ri, tatu\u00e2ndu-\u0219i sub s\u00e2n, pe partea dreapt\u0103, clasicul&hellip;","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1272","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1272"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1272\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1275,"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1272\/revisions\/1275"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1274"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1272"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1272"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/zethenterprises.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1272"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}